Are you a sex addict or you just have an increased libido?Well,being a doctor, I would like to help you on this.Lets consider a benign condition,''increased libido".The dictionary meaning of Libido is one's sexual urge or sexual energy.Having physiological amount of libido is considered normal.Moreover, if your partner is sharing the same amount of libido then its perfect for a relationship.Its not abnormal to have increased urge to have sex.The research has shown that sex is good for health.The problems do occur when the level of libidos deny to match in a relationship.We dont call it as a psychiatric abnormality but just a dissent.
On the other half,we have the term sex addict.The term is personified by legends like Tiger Woods,John Terry,Bill Clinton and many more.Sex addiction is defined as an addiction towards sex such that one's social,emotional and physical behaviour is affected drastically.Consider,the recent controversy about Tiger Woods.His sexual drive ended up destroying his family,his career,his fans and most importantly himself.Apparently there is some 12 step therapy for sex addicts.The therapy runs on similar tracts of Alcohol anonymous and narcotic anonymous.
So if you are in a physical relationship,there is no need to get scared by mere mismatch of libidos unless its affecting your life like Woods,Terry and Clinton.Its just a matter of convincing your partner and nothing else.
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Dr.Prajakt Mahajan
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Actually, this philosophy applies to many of life's attractions. e.g. even something as benign as shopping (which sounds a lot less awkward than "sex addiction" ;) - one of the interesting ways our society labels and grades things).
The higher you rise in life, the more fame and money you get, and there are more distractions. In such cases, the true character of a person comes to the front. It has been known that sports heroes and rock stars have a lot of fan following. For that manner, it is well-known that teenagers end up in dressing rooms backstage of rockstars like Aerosmith, Rolling Stones - there have also been incidences of underage problems reported in such cases. I think it is where one decides to draw the line. That is why the true greatness of a person is how he or she handles such opportunities thrown at them when they are successful and have everything in life....money, fame, family, etc. Tiger Woods fell from his pinnacle to almost nothing in a few days....and what wrong you do (again, wrong is a relative term, decided by society) but it will come back to you. E.g. Since Tiger's initial testimonial, 12 women in total came out of the dark and said that he had a physical relationship with them WHILE he was married. I always wonder, aren't people like Sachin Tendulkar and Roger Federer at the same level as Tiger Woods? Even say, Sachin Tendulkar and Shahid Afridi, or Wayne Rooney...but a lot is known about Afridi's and Rooney's off-field plays. So I dont think there is an addiction involved (though it could be, and often is- but the addiction often starts out of ignorance). It is more about how much control you have over yourself, and how you best decide to direct your energy. Both Sachin Tendulkar and Federer could have gotten a lot more women (btw, women - sorry to make it sound one sided; its just that you hear more of men philanderers than women philanderers); but they have found something that satisfies them above having physical relationships with multiple women (and even if they wouldnt have found it initially; they made it happen - that is probably intrinsically hinted in the last sentence in your blog entry; but you dont necessarily "convince" your partner; you just find a common ground, and see where both are comfortable, keeping in mind the bigger picture)
(P.S. I feel a bit weird commenting on random celebrities' intimacies though ;P).
The same thing goes for alcohol, smoking, shopping, drugs, gambling...when you have everything offered to you in your life...then what do you choose as your priorities?
Interesting & BOLD !!!!!
the names u have mentioned. id like 2 point out common factor in them.
they are all powerful people.
they r in habit of getting whatever they ask for.
what i feel is, the addiction is not actually sex.
getting whatever they want, whenever they want, irrespective of the ethics and practicality, is the essence of that addiction.
inability to handle the power, if i can call it that.
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